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Menakar Efek PNS terhadap Uang Panaik pada Bugis-Makassar

AWAL tahun 2019 ditandai dengan pengumuman kelulusan tes CPNS. Sebagai tes, nassami (tentu) ada yang lulus ada juga yang tidak. Yang tidak lulus cobama ki lagi tes berikutnya, jika jatah umur masih cukup.

Dan bagimu yang lulus, selamat. Saya turut berbahagia. Kebahagiaan saya bertambah-tambah sebab beberapa kenalan dan sahabat dekat luluski juga.

Bagi sebagian masyarakat kita, PNS adalah pekerjaan idaman. PNS dianggap lebih memberikan kepastian dan jaminan masa depan. Gaji tetap masuk tiap bulan tanpa khawatir jika perusahaannya akan gulung tikar.

Dan dalam masyarakat Bugis-Makassar, menjadi PNS bukan lagi sekedar pekerjaan idaman. Ini mi ine. PNS menjadi salah faktor penting yang menentukan tingkat tarif uang panaik.

Faktor penting lainnya adalah level pendidikan, kecantikan, keluarga, dan sudah naik haji atau belum. Semakin tinggi strata sosialnya maka akan semakin tinggi pula uang panaiknya. PNS adalah satu bagian strata sosial yang bekerja sama secara apik dengan adat tradisi.

Pekerjaan PNS dipastikan akan meningkat nilai tawar uang panaik. Sebuah situasi yang tidak terlalu baik bagi jomblo yang masih merangkak-rangkak membangun masa depannya.

Memang posisi PNS akan memberi harapan namun di satu sisi yang lain cukup menggetarkan gendang telinga mereka sampai pada tingkat desibel tertentu. Kamase.

Bagi perempuan dan masih jomblo, PNS memberikan keuntungan bagi pihak keluarga maupun perempuan itu sendiri. Bagi keluarga, PNS dipastikan turut mempengaruhi besarnya kisaran uang panaik terlebih jika bersekutu dengan faktor lain seperti gelar, kecantikan, dan pendidikan.

Sedangkan bagi perempuan, tak sulit menarik lelaki datang melamar jika sudah PNS apalagi jika wajahnya tidak terlalu mengecewakan dibawa ke kondangan. Tanpa diminta datang melamarpun, para lelaki sudah antri mi di depan rumah.

Maka bagi pacarnya, apalagi jika belum PNS dan masih menganggur sebaiknya jangan macam-macam. Sesungguhnya mudah bagi perempuan untuk melepaskanmu tanpa setetes air mata sedikit pun. Coba mi abaikan na ada tikung ko macam tikungannya Rossi.

PNS akan meningkatkan uang panaik belasan atau puluhan juta. Ballassi. Keluarga pihak perempuan akan dengan percaya diri mematok panaik sekian puluhan juta.

Boleh saja dia bukan bangsawan, belum haji atau belum selesai S2, tetapi jika dia PNS, sorry ces lain mi lagi ceritanya. Jika tidak sanggup ya silakan mundur. Mereka tak perlu khawatir. Lah yang antre banyak ji.

Yang merasa kurang, entah seberapapun cintamu, haruslah mempersiapkan hati sekuat-kuatnya sembari mempersilakan mereka yang sanggup maju dan kau perlahan mundur meratapi nasib.

Sambil menunggu undanganya, silakan berlatih menyanyikan lagu ‘Balo Lipa’. Banyak ji itu tutorialnya di Youtube plus tutorial cara pingsan yang baik di pelaminan mantan.

Lagu ini telah terbukti telah membuat beberapa mantan pingsan di pesta pernikahan. Tojeng-tojengka (serius), lagi ini bukan sembarang lagu. Saya sarankan tidak perlu datang jika hatimu tak sekuat baja. Apalagi jika memang tidak diundang.

Namun sebenarnya, menjadi PNS tidak selalu menguntungkan. Apalagi jika sudah PNS, keluarga berada, dan sudah haji pula.

Tak sedikit yang bergetar-getar hatinya jauh sebelum kakinya menginjak teras rumahnya. Jangankan menemui orangtuanya, niat datang saja sudah pikir-pikir.

Tak jarang ada yang bahkan sudah mengibarkan bendera putih dari kejauhan. Tapi bukan bura’ne (laki-laki) Bugis-Makassar kalau tidak mencoba dulu. Idealnya sih begitu hehe…

Kalaupun tidak begitu, jangan ki buru-buru mencap lelaki macam ini sebagai penakut. Mereka ini kadang merasa tidak cukup dan cukup tahu diri.

Mereka tak ingin mempermalukan diri sendiri dan keluarganya. Siri’na pacce. Mungkin saja perempuan suka dengan dia, tapi ia ragu apakah keluarga perempuan akan menerima keluarganya.

Pernikahan kan bukan cuma menikah istri seorang tetapi juga ‘menikahi’ keluarganya. Selain perempuan, banyak juga teman saya laki-laki yang masih single dan lulus.

Tentu ini kabar gembira dan membuat mereka senang bukan kepalang. Apalagi jika selama ini banyak yang merasa tidak pede melamar karena belum memiliki pekerjaan tetap.

PNS adalah jawaban dan solusinya. PNS adalah koentji. Dalam masyarakat Bugis-Makassar, seragam dengan tulisan ‘LINMAS’ meski masih honorer saja sudah membuat calon mertua senang, lah apalagi jika sudah PNS.

Dipastikan kebahagiaan orang tua akan tambah melimpah. Kelulusan PNS juga akan membuat lelaki memiliki status memilih perempuan mana yang hendak dijadikan belahan jiwanya.

Jelas PNS adalah salah satu Kartu As dalam melamar. Tetapi kalau memang sudah punya calon yang menemani sejak berjuang yah tidak perlu berlagak dan lirik sana lirik sini. Setialah.

Tetapi status PNS juga berpotensi menaikkan uang panaik sang calon. Memang dengan begitu akan meningkatkan kepercayaan diri saat melamar, tetapi pihak keluarga perempuan juga dengan percaya diri menaikkan standar uang panaik.

Apalagi jika ia cantik, bangsawan, dan S2 pula. Hal sebab si lelaki sudah dianggap mapan dan tidak perlu khawatir jika diminta panaik dalam jumlah banyak.

Hanya saja gambaran diatas bersifat umum saja. Tidak selalu begitu meski tidak juga dapat dikesampingkan fenomena ini.

Uang panaik dalam nilai-nilainya bukan soal siapa paling besar dan siapa yang lebih kecil. Bukan ajang gagah-gagahan dan banding-membandingkan.

Sejujurnya mau berapapun tak ada masalah sepanjang kedua belah pihak saling menyepakati dan menyanggupi. Tak jarang uang panaik ditinggikan sebagai alasan halus untuk menolak laki-laki.

Entah karena keluarga perempuan tidak menyukai perangai laki-laki atau si perempuan sendiri yang tidak menyukai si lelaki untuk menjadi suaminya.

Yang keliru barangkali adalah ketika uang panaik menjadi penghalang dua insan yang saling mencintai untuk saling bersatu. Hal ini biasa juga terjadi.

Dalam tradisi lamaran Bugis-Makassar ada tahap mappettu ada. Satu proses ketika kedua keluarga bermufakat. Dalam proses inilah jumlah uang panaik dinegosiasikan.

Jumlah disepakati. Biasanya ada juga pembicaraan sebelum proses itu. Orang Bugis-Makassar bukanlah orang-orang yang tegaan dan suka menyusahkan orang lain.

Hanya media saja yang selalu heboh memviralkan jika uang panaik mencapai puluhan, ratusan bahkan miliaran rupiah. Akibatnya, orang-orang tahu jika melamar perempuan Bugis-Makassar harus sengeri itu.

Padahal tidak selalu begitu. Masih jauh lebih banyak pernikahan yang berlangsung sesuai dengan kadar kesanggupan dan kesepakatan dua pihak keluarga.

Arief Balla

Sedang menempuh studi master TESOL and Applied Linguistics di Southern Illinois University Carbondale, Amerika Serikat dengan beasiswa Fulbright.

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Arief Balla

Sedang menempuh studi master TESOL and Applied Linguistics di Southern Illinois University Carbondale, Amerika Serikat dengan beasiswa Fulbright.

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